Our 20’s may seem to be the perfect time to enjoy life and be wild and free, but it could also be the best period for self-development. You could well be on your way to adulthood, but that should not stop you from aiming for improving oneself.
Actually, it should be our never-ending goal. Constantly improving and changing ourselves should be the one thing consistent in our life. To make the most of your youth, here are some ways to improve yourself in your 20s.
Invest in Yourself
You may want to progress your career by going back to school. Going back to school sometimes means that you may have to take out a loan, which is fine, but just be sure you understand the loan terms and conditions. By investing in yourself, you may also want to improve your physique by joining the gym or changing your food choices, investing in yourself is never a bad idea. Our 20s should be filled with milestones. By that I mean, aim to develop and expand your horizon.
We are now not confined by the curriculum of our majors in school. We can make our own decisions based on what aspect of our life should be improved. Maybe you have always wanted to be fluent in another language… it’s time to enroll in that Korean school so that you won’t need subtitles when watching your Kpop idol.
Maybe you wanted to impress your partner with your cooking skills… it’s high time you take professional cooking lessons. Better yourself in a way that you improve not only your personal interest but by also indirectly improving your career, relationship, and individuality.
Love Yourself More
In our teenage years, we were busy fulfilling the demands of other people… yes, I’m talking about peer pressure. In your 20s, you are more confident about who you are and what you want out of life. You definitely have enough mind to form your own opinion and not be swayed by others.
It is time to be more loving towards yourself, and learn the art of self-care. It has nothing to do with thinking about yourself in the most selfish way, but rather it is putting your needs before someone else’s, and there’s nothing wrong with that. It can be a little challenging, especially if you are someone who typically does put others before yourself.
Self-love can be as simple as making sure you’re getting enough sleep because you know your body needs it. On a deeper level, it is learning how to embrace your failure and the mistakes you have committed. Know that it is part of being human, and it will take you on the road to accepting yourself for who you are.
Once you have accepted yourself, now you need to understand yourself. Start by discovering your core values. Your core values are your moral standards and principles in life. It stands as your guide towards the career or relationship you want.
For example, you believe the saying “once a cheater, always a cheater.” Believing in this means you will choose a faithful partner and have a tendency to not give anyone a second chance the moment they committed such grave mistake.
In addition, understanding yourself means acknowledging your strengths and weaknesses. Knowing this aspect of your individuality is important to know, especially in your 20s. It is around this time that we can be smart enough to choose our battles in life.
Knowing your weaknesses allow you to be more aware of things and situations to avoid, and things to improve about yourself. Being aware of your strength will give you more confidence about a certain endeavor, and become a reminder of your capabilities.
Resolve Your Past
Unfortunately, not everyone has the perfect childhood. Not everyone is blessed to have a loving family. If you are one of the many people with awful memories of a traumatic childhood experience, then you need to resolve your issues in your 20s.
Miserable childhood memories and experiences can heavily affect our adulthood, and can even transpire into our parenthood. You need to properly process all the unresolved issues to ease the burden in your heart, give yourself peace of mind, and release any inner conflicts in your soul. If they are left unattended, you will have the tendency to project them onto your own children.